#2 Meeting Ian Brown: Without a doubt, this had to be the most surreal moment of my year abroad, if not in my life. Check out the story here and then call me any name of your choosing thereafter. My advice to anyone that runs into a rock legend is that if they offer you tickets to see their show, accept,accept,accept! If you do not accept, you will never hear the end of it especially from your mates.
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
Highlights from Indonesia
#2 Meeting Ian Brown: Without a doubt, this had to be the most surreal moment of my year abroad, if not in my life. Check out the story here and then call me any name of your choosing thereafter. My advice to anyone that runs into a rock legend is that if they offer you tickets to see their show, accept,accept,accept! If you do not accept, you will never hear the end of it especially from your mates.
Saturday, April 5, 2014
Friends - The Album (Part 2)
Meet Brummie A (girl) my former DOS (Director of Studies) and N (dude) former Senior DOS for the whole of the franchise group. Together they were an unstoppable ESL power couple, surely there has to be songs written about them?! They've worked for the franchise group for six years and together for roughly the same time. Seriously though, between them they have so much knowledge and experience within ESL. They gave me a great deal of encouragement and advice when I asked for it or after they had observed my lesson, they provided honest and detailed feedback which I took on board. A was the kids guru and N was the adult guru so together, I got top tips on how to approach both sets. They both are amazing teachers and I am forever grateful for their guidance. I hope I get to work with them again in the future.
Aussie R - This force of nature started the same time as me. She is a ESL veteran who brings a tons and tons of energy to her classes. You almost forget you are in a class if you are observing one of her lessons. She was a good work colleague who had ideas and gave everything creative flair. Did I mention she's fluent in Bahasa? I would hate her if I didn't like her so much.
Withnail - My Mancunian brother-from another- mother he was in a strange, perverted way (he nicknamed Tits Magee). Withnail was one of the loveliest guys you'll ever meet. Sharp-witted, well-read and Manchester Red like me; what more could I've asked for in a housemate? We got on so well and I was gutted he had to move back out to his old house. I enjoyed our group movie trips and our many drunken chats. He left on the day Doc arrived and is now living it up in Italy. We keep in touch mainly to commiserate at how fucking awful Man United are this season. Hopefully we shall meet up and have several bottles of wine, unlike old times where the wine was beer hehe!
Friday, March 28, 2014
Friends - The Album
Me with Girl J, Little C and Sister J on a night out
One of the things I will take away from my time in Jakarta are the number of friends I made. Most were British, some were American, Canadian and the odd Antipodean and Irish. I mentioned in the previous post that my friends were the #1 in things I miss since leaving. I miss drinking, laughing, eating, gossiping,travelling and crying with these people; we were a big,fat mad family. One of the saddest things to happen due to the nature of the job is that after twelve months people leave. Some go back home, some move onto another country or move onto another company within the city.My time in Jakarta was spent cultivating these friendships and Lord knows if I did not have these friendships, I would have had a difficult time adjusting to Indonesia.I want to dedicate this post to those lovely people who I left behind or left me in Jakarta. Some of them you would recognize by their 'names' from previous posts. So it would be awesome just to put a face to the name of some of these lovely people.
To kick off my little album, let me start with The Jays, i.e Girl J and Scottish J. These two became my two favourite people there especially Girl J. Prior to leaving the UK, I got in touch with Girl J to introduce myself in the hopes of making an amiable impression, what did I get in return? A welcome pack of an apple, Pop-Mie and a letter welcoming me to the house since everyone was at work. I was impressed! Scottish J was the first of my housemates I met. He got me sorted with changing my money and other little essentials on my first night in Jakarta. They both moved out of the house in March and lived in a nearby apartment complex due to Girl J getting a job at an embassy school. Regardless, of them leaving we remained close. I saw Scottish J a lot through work and socializing, while Girl J and I did lunch, window shopped and other girlie pursuits. Scottish J has been the most incredible help to me especially in times when I was doubting myself as a Business English teacher, not to mention he is also one of the nicest guys I have ever met. The Jays finish up in Jakarta in July and August respectively, but they are going to be in Scotland this week with Girl J staying with me for a couple of nights. Sister J - Whenever anybody needed a ray of sunshine, just look at Sister J's smile and all is right with the world again. When I got the job in November, I asked the recruiter for the e-mail address of a new teacher to ask them about their experience living in Jakarta. We began to exchange e-mails and became Facebook friends. I was pleasantly surprised that she was black and quickly bonded over black girl issues mainly hair related. She lived and worked in the North Jakarta so I did not get to hang out with her as much as people that lived in the centre with me but she was good value for hanging out. Sister J left in October and has since resettled in London. We got back in touch when I returned and plan to meet up in London as soon as I start working.
D - My friendship with D started like how all new friendships start, over social media. I was introduced to D by her former workmate who I met on Twitter to discuss living in Jakarta said workmate put me in touch with D. When I added D as a Facebook friend, I was surprised to find she was friends with my Dad. It turns out she shot a documentary about Jerk cuisine and my Dad was one of the chefs she interviewed. Small world or what? Her contract finished in March but she has since got a job in Bali and we maintained contact ever since. This lady's spirit and wanderlust is awe-inspiring and it is just always awesome to meet Jamaicans in far flung parts of the world. Check out her blog right here!
Kiwi E and Manc C - My workmates and the dearest of girls. Manc C (from Manchester) was in Jakarta only a couple of weeks before me and worked at another school and lived in the north of Jakarta. We bonded on our trip to Singapore and decided to celebrate us passing our probation by going to Lombok and the Gilis together. Eventually Manc C moved into my house and school and are friendship continued to grow. She decided to stay another year to explore the scuba diving that's on offer here. Kiwi E came in April and we quickly bonded over our mutual love for Facebar, Ladies' nights and small children (more me than her). I had a giggle with these ladies at work and I wish them all the best in their future endeavours.
B - My delightful Irish housemate who arrived in August. After losing Little C, I did not know who was going to replace her but I hoped it was another lovely girl. Thank goodness for her! B's good nature, sense of humour and radiant smile won me over and we became really good friends. We plan to meet up in London or Dublin or Edinburgh. I look forward to seeing her again and have right ole knees-up.
Kitty - I met this delightful American through Aussie R and Girl J at an Indian lunch buffet. At the time she was working for another franchise of my company where she was the only girl yiikes! As such, she was taken into the our sisterly bosoms as one of our own. We bonded over musicals, costume dramas, Richard Armitage and Disney. She has stayed on another year but teaching at an Australian feeder school where she teaches Literature and Global Citizenship where she is relishing her role. She even masterminded a hilarious but poignant goodbye video for me. I am hopeful we'll see each other again whether it's here in the UK or in her hometown of Boston drinking a cup of tea singing a song or two.
Lola - This party-loving creature of the night is all kinds of awesome. She had her own dance, her own style and her own laugh. She took me to the airport where we both tearfully said goodbye to each other.I am so grateful for that as I would have gone to the airport on my own and cry by myself. I look forward to seeing her when she gets back here; I do miss her cackle.
Boy L - One of the sweetest guys you will ever meet. Boy L moved in in October after the sacking and eventual departure of 'he who shan't be named'. He had no problems joining in the Cang (pronounced chang) family. We both shared a love for football and tennis and engaged in banter and he's a great laugh on nights-out. I'm super excited for all the cool things this year has in store for him personally and professionally. Without a doubt, one of the best people I met out there and I miss the wee dear.
The album is to be continued.
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Thursday, March 20, 2014
Five Things I Miss and Five Things I Don't Miss about Jakarta
Mal Sarinah in Jakarta Pusat
It's been 9 weeks since I left Jakarta and I miss the bitch! This south-east Asian concrete jungle of a city was my home for a year and what an intense experience it was? In the beginning, there was not a day that went by where I got pissed off with it and vented my frustrations to my house mates, colleagues or anyone that listened for that matter. The honest truth was that I did not love Jakarta! However, as time went on, my attitude towards Jakarta mellowed out and I became tolerant and at some points liked it. As I mentioned before, I did not love Jakarta, but I appreciated her for taking me and not swallowing me whole as she had done to so many other foreigners. In the 9 weeks I've been away from her, I've reflected on my time there and I realised how much I got out of it. Friendship,a career option and the opportunity to travel. So I compiled a list of ten things - i.e. five things I miss and five things I don't miss - about living in Jakarta.
Have you ever missed a place after returning home? How did you cope being back home?
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Friday, February 28, 2014
Dealing with a Long Distance Relationship (LDR)
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On our respective graduations 2007 and 2008 |
I recently watched a film called Going the Distance starring Drew Barrymore and Justin Long. The film was OK at best but what resonated with me was what the two protagonists had to deal with. An issue that I was all to familiar with this past year. The issue being keeping a relationship going despite being thousands of miles away from your beloved.
As you well know, I have a long term boyfriend who I fondly named Doc on this blog (8 years and still liking the sight of each other!) and I left him for a whole YEAR - discounting his trip out to visit me in August - to work and live in Indonesia. Am I nuts? Maybe. It was one of the hardest decisions I had ever made, but one that I do not regret because if anything, our love for each other grew stronger for everyday we were apart. You know the saying 'absence makes the heart grow fonder', corny but very true!
This was not the first time Doc and I were not in the same place for a long period time. At university, we did the long distance thing when he was doing his year in industry near London, I was finishing up my course in Leeds. It was not ideal but we saw each other fortnightly and enjoyed banter on a then new thing called Facebook. Since then we had not been apart for more than two weeks and then Indonesia happened. I'm not going to lie, I started missing him after my third week. One too many longing Skype chats and of course the occasional breakdown made me miss my love even more. Our August reunion meant that we had not physically seen each other for six months and our reunion in Edinburgh airport a few weeks ago was another five months from that.
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Despite being separated by 7 time zones and being 14 hours away by flight; we miraculously made it work! But how you wonder? I'll tell you:
- I made Skype my new bosom buddy - Doc and I spoke to each other nearly everyday using it to video chat and instant message each other (when the internet works). It is also cost effective when talking on a landline. I also recommend What's App and Facebook Messenger if you both have smartphones (I did not have smartphone in Indonesia). Communication is key for the survival of any relationship.
- Being clear on the parameters of our relationship - It is important to have an honest and open conversation about your relationship with your significant other before embarking on an LDR such as defining it and what are your hopes and expectations for it. From that conversation, you should get a clear idea if you want to enter an LDR with this person. Doc and I have a long term relationship so we were pretty clear that we were exclusive and hope to go one step further when I return to the UK.
- Trying to communicate in a different way - With the advancements made in telecommunications, some of the ways of old can be very touching. Writing letters might seem old-fashioned but it holds a great deal of sweet sentimentality, not to mention the fact that it keeps the relationship interesting and romantic! That being said, I did not write Doc any letters while I was in Indonesia ( it would take forever to get to the UK!) but I did it when we had our first separation at university. For Indonesia, I dropped a video message once a month in his Dropbox.
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- Being positive about not seeing each other - Staying positive about the relationship is essential. So in order to have a happier outlook, drop the negativity about not seeing each other all the time! Channel the negativity into something else like a new hobby, for me it was getting to know my housemates, creating this blog, focus on my job and exploring Indonesia.
- Don't take it personal or be jealous - Things can get hectic for both of you with work and other social engagements getting in the way. But never take it personally if one of you forgot to respond to a message or missed a call or feel guilty about missing an arranged chat because you were busy getting hammered at Ladies night (guilty as charged) . We had those moments but we had to be flexible and understanding about it and move on from it.
Jamaica 2009 |
- Relax and do it - I am an advocate of Skype sex. Some people might be prudish about it ( I know I certainly was) but it is key to keeping the physical aspect of the relationship in check.
Have any of you been in a long distance relationship? How did you deal?
Wednesday, February 19, 2014
Temple Trekking in Yogyakarta
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Prambanan Temple |
Borobudur |
My last holiday in Indonesia was to the city of Yogyakarta (pronounced jogjakarta). Located in Central Java, this city is renowned for being the centre of Javanese culture and fine art. It was also, for a time, the Indonesian capital during the Indonesian Revolution in the mid-1940's.
The first time I heard about Jogja was through a gay Belgian couple I had befriended on my flight over to Jakarta last January. They were going to visit the city and all the attractions it had offer, including seeing the temples Borobudur and Prambanan. This certainly got me interested in a possible visit in the next few months. As I got settled into Jakarta life and gotten to know my house mates, coincidently they had just spent Christmas there and had regaled me with tales of rafting and visiting the temples, my interest was piqued.
I made the decision to go by myself in January as a last tango in Indonesia. I booked my train for the 28th of January for five days. I knew from the get go that I wanted to do the temples, eat good Javanese food and treat myself with spa therapies as I like to be pampered on holiday. More than anything, this trip was to get my head right about heading home and leaving all my new found family here.
So I left Jakarta on a train at 8 in the morning. The journey was a long one (7 hours) so I managed to squeeze in some sleep despite having a male passenger playing a staring contest with me and my neighbour practising her elementary level English with me. I wanted to take some pictures of the lush green of the Javanese countryside ;however, it is rainy and horrible and my camera could capture the scenery well enough, boo hiss!
Despite all that, I arrived in overcast Jogja and quickly went about looking for transport to my accommodation, EDU Hostel. I took a becak (pronounced be-chak) for 30,000rp from the train station. I took in the sights and smell of Jogja. It smelt of rain and nasi goreng, honestly! I checked in and went upstairs to my 6-bed dorm room(female). Thankfully there were only 3 of us in the room. I couldn't help but notice how big the hostel was and how clean and tidy the rooms were,definitely puts it in the running for best hostel I've stayed in.
My primary reason for being in Jogja was to check out the temples so I went on a mission to find tours for the temples.The hostel offered multiple tours of the temples and other fun activities like rafting and batik printing classes. I then decided on the 8 hour sunrise tour of the temples (Be at Borobudur by 6am and then Mendut temple and Prambanan), I got talking to a couple of guys who coincidently were on the same train as I was. They decided to book the same trip as me ,what luck friends! One is an American Peace Corps volunteer on holiday leave from Ethiopia and the other a Brit from Coventry (my family's neck of the woods) who is travelling through to Australia for work.
Before the crack of dawn (4:45am), we disembarked from our hostel and were treated to the history of the temple from guide. As I was still virtually asleep, I did not listen to the guide and slept soundly until we reached our destination. However I do remember him saying that Borobudur was built in the 9th century and the architecture was inspired by both Javanese elements as well as Indian art which gives it makes Indonesian. As it is a place of pilgrimage, the journey begins at the base of the monument and follow a path that leads to the top through the three levels of Buddhist Cosmology: Kamadhatu (world of desire), Rapadhatu (world of forms) and Arupadhatu (world of formlessness).
I paid the local price as I had a laminated photocopy of my KITAS while my new mates had to pay the bule price (difference between 200,000rp and 30,000rp anyone?) on we went with our sarongs wrapped around our hips and a lovely old man as our guide we were free to explore this beautiful Buddhist temple. I couldn't help but marvel at the stone carvings that told stories and overlooking the beautiful golden sunrise. I was beyond astounded. It is incredible what the human imagination and faith could make with hands. This place is a true wonder, I wonder what would have happened if Raffles did not 'discover' it 1814? Would we have found it? Probably.
Although it was not crowded, there were a number of high schoolers who were waiting to talk to visitors to practice their English and have their obligatory snap with a foreigner. I was obliged to speak to them after the temple tour was finished and spoke to them about Britain (they thought I was American) and British slang and idioms. I guess I could never stop being a teacher. It was so time for us to go as our 2 hours were up so the boys and I headed towards a warung for our free breakfast which was not great in all honesty. Borobudur should be on every travellers list if they are passing through Java. It is truly worth it.
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Stupas |
Buddha in a stupa |
New friends |
The temple trekking continued with Mendut Temple, Borobudur's 'infant'. It is 10 minute drive from Borobudur and is so small that we did the tour in 20 minutes. Despite the brevity of the tour, Mendut was still a lovely bit architecture and more surprising is the fact that it is older than Borobudur. The temple also shows carvings the Javanese bas-relief of Hariti, considered as a symbol of fertility. It is still used today during the Buddhist festival of Vesak, where Buddhists walk from Mendut to Pawon temple and end at Borobudur.
Hariti |
Buddha |
Temple inside the roof |
We then moved onto Prambanan which was on the other side of Borobudur a 45-minute drive to be exact. Unlike the temples we had just seen, Prambanan was a Hindu temple complex. There are three main temples each named after a Hindu god in which the followers would worship; Shiva (the largest and most impressive in my opinion), Vishnu and Brahma. We had these high school kids as guides who knew their stuff but bless them their English was not great.I've convinced myself that Prambanan was used as a location for the opening scene of the Mortal Kombat film, I'm sure of it. It is similar to Borobudur because they have almost the same intricate stone carvings telling stories and legends. However, I was not blown away by it as I was to Borobudur. Prambanan does have many more smaller temples surrounding the complex, some of them were in a state of repair and other were beyond that stage. Nevertheless it was lovely to walk around the vast complex which included a market to buy souvenirs.
Remains of Bubruh temple |
Hard hat for the Shiva shrine |
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Sewu temple |
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After spending two hours at the complex, it was time to call it a day. We headed back to our hostel tired but thoroughly satisfied with our exploits. I was particularly exhausted as I haven't had to get up that early since high school. I highly recommend visiting these temples as you would get a sense of Indonesia's religious past. I'll be honest, I thought it was Islam dominated from day one but these temples proved that was not the case. If you are foreign visitor expect to pay 200,000rp at both Borobudur and Prambanan. Mendut only cost 3,000rp. It is also best to visit Borobudur in the morning because in the afternoon it gets REALLY crowded.
This next few days were all about kicking back relaxing by the pool, getting lovely messages and reflecting on my time Indonesia. Going to the temples is on my list of favourite I've done here and will never forget.
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